Executive Summary
We analyzed 25 dating communities listed on Hive Index to understand where people gather, what these groups offer, and which communities attract the most interest.
The big picture: dating communities are broad and fragmented, with many small groups and a few very large outliers.
Source: Hive Index community database · Updated 2026-06-12
- Communities
- 25
- Platforms
- 5
- Avg members
- 2.6M
- Median members
- 112K
Where Dating Communities Are Hosted
- Discord: 9 communities (36%)
- Independent Platforms: 6 communities (24%)
- Reddit: 5 communities (20%)
- Facebook: 4 communities (16%)
- Skool: 1 communities (4%)
- 9(36%)
Discord - 6(24%)
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Independent Platforms - 5(20%)
Reddit - 4(16%)
Facebook - 1(4%)
Skool
Format mix
- 15(60%)Forum / feed-based
- 9(36%)Chat communities
- 1(4%)Private membership
Forum / feed-based is most common (60%), but chat communities is also well represented (36%).
Discord leads, but Independent Platforms and Reddit also represent meaningful shares.
Audience Size & Access
Community size
- Tiny: 0 communities (0%)
- Small: 0 communities (0%)
- Medium: 2 communities (8%)
- Large: 5 communities (20%)
- Huge: 4 communities (16%)
- Massive: 7 communities (28%)
- Gigantic: 5 communities (20%)
- 0(0%)Tiny<20 members
- 0(0%)Small20-100 members
- 2(8%)Medium100-1,000 members
- 5(20%)Large1,000-10,000 members
- 4(16%)Huge10,000-100,000 members
- 7(28%)Massive100,000-1M members
- 5(20%)Gigantic1M+ members
2 communities have unknown member counts.
Free vs paid
- Free to join: 23 communities (92%)
- Paid or apply-to-join: 2 communities (8%)
The average is much higher than the median (2.6M vs 112K), which usually means a few large groups are pulling the average up.
How Dating Differs From Other Categories
Dating is larger than typical Hive Index topics.
| Metric | Dating | Hive Index average |
|---|---|---|
| Free to join | 92% | 85% |
| Median members | 112K | 25K |
| Average members | 2.6M | 669K |
| Paid or apply-to-join | 8% | 15% |
| Live chat | 48% | 38% |
| Discord share | 36% | 16% |
Feature Mix
Common features appear in at least 15% of listings.
Common Features
- Forum: 17 communities (68%)
- Live Chat: 12 communities (48%)
- Online/Offline Events: 8 communities (32%)
- 68%Forum
- 48%Live Chat
- 32%Online/Offline Events
Niche Features
- Member Perks: 3 communities (12%)
- Courses: 2 communities (8%)
- Newsletter: 2 communities (8%)
- Paid Community: 2 communities (8%)
- Pairing: 2 communities (8%)
- 12%Member Perks
- 8%Courses
- 8%Newsletter
- 8%Paid Community
- 8%Pairing
Forum appears on 68% of listings.
What Visitors Click
- Outbound clicks / mo
- 5K
Platform supply vs. clicks
| Platform | Communities | Share of communities | Outbound clicks | Share of clicks |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Discord | 9 | 36% | 4K | 91% |
| Independent Platforms | 6 | 24% | 281 | 6% |
| 5 | 20% | 42 | 1% | |
| 4 | 16% | 83 | 2% | |
| Skool | 1 | 4% | 1 | 0% |
Share is calculated within this topic.
Discord hosts 36% of listings and 91% of clicks, so supply and interest line up.
Most-clicked formats
- 4K(91%)Chat communities
- 406(9%)Forum / feed-based
- 1(0%)Private membership
Most-clicked features
- 5K(97%)Live Chat
- 2K(34%)Online/Offline Events
- 2K(34%)Member Perks
- 2K(32%)Paid Community
- 827(17%)Forum
- 624(13%)Pairing
Most-clicked size ranges
- 2K(52%)Large
- 2K(33%)Massive
- 638(13%)Huge
- 46(1%)Gigantic
- 43(1%)Medium
Top-clicked listings
- 2K(32%)DateRoom
- 1K(24%)Lovedate
- 394(8%)BDSM Obedience Academy
Most clicks go to chat communities and forum / feed-based communities.
Community Quality & Ratings
Only 4 communities have ratings so far, so read this as a small sample.
3.6 average rating across 4 communities.
Methodology & FAQ
Methodology
This report uses communities in the Hive Index database tagged as Dating. We exclude removed or suppressed listings. Member counts, traffic, features, reviews, and ratings may vary by source and are updated periodically.
- •This is a smaller slice of Hive Index's database, so read trends as directional.
- •Last updated 2026-06-12