About r/latebloomerlesbians
Some of us are married to men, some of us are dating them, and some of us are chronically single. But we well have one thing in common: we are late to the coming out game. A place for queer, gay, bi, pan, lesbian, trans and questioning humans to share, give advice, and receive support! We welcome discussions that explore what life looks like or could look like as a “late bloomer” lesbian. This includes talk around sexuality, sensuality, life, friendships, random thoughts, fun, and more.
The community at a glance
r/latebloomerlesbians is a Subreddit for LGBTQIA+ and Lesbians with roughly 141K members. It has been around since 2018. It has both a forum and a live chat communication style. On the Hive Index it ranks #1 in the Lesbian communities list and #2 in the LGBTQIA communities list.
Roughly 23K members have joined in the past year. Popular discussion topics include Struggling, Coming Out, and Sexuality. Product recommendations often mention book, podcast, and movie.
Community Topics
Subreddit Analysis
via GummySearchMember growth over time
All time (yearly)
- 2024: 19K members
- 2025: 16K members
- 2026: 16K members
Past year (monthly)
- Sep: 904 members
- Oct: 899 members
- Nov: 2K members
- Dec: 2K members
- Jan: 2K members
- Feb: 2K members
- Mar: 2K members
- Apr: 3K members
- May: 2K members
- Jun: 2K members
- Jul: 2K members
- Aug: 46 members
Topics
- Struggling62 posts in the past month#162Struggling
- Coming Out50 posts in the past month#250Coming Out
- Sexuality44 posts in the past month#344Sexuality
- Confusion38 posts in the past month#438Confusion
- Relationship31 posts in the past month#531Relationship
Flair
- Sex and dating11 posts in the past month
- Okay, so I figured out how to meet people. How the hell do I date people?
- i consider myself a lesbian but a friend of mine keeps telling me i’m bi
- Okay real talk, how do I get over the subject of my lesbian awakening?!
#111Sex and datingOkay, so I figured out how to meet people. How the hell do I date people? · i consider myself a lesbian but a friend of mine keeps telling me i’m bi · Okay real talk, how do I get over the subject of my lesbian awakening?! - Sunday Selfie 🤳7 posts in the past month
- I liked my fit today
- Sunday Selfie 📸🪴
- Flirt Lab 3 in the books
#27Sunday Selfie 🤳I liked my fit today · Sunday Selfie 📸🪴 · Flirt Lab 3 in the books - About husband / boyfriend6 posts in the past month
- I feel crazy!!
- How do you do it?
- i don’t know where to go from here
#36About husband / boyfriendI feel crazy!! · How do you do it? · i don’t know where to go from here - Silly and Fun5 posts in the past month
- I just keep carrying rainbow things with me
- I feel so validated hahah
- Any movie/audio/book/ASMR recommendations for a newly-out-to-self lesbian?
#45Silly and FunI just keep carrying rainbow things with me · I feel so validated hahah · Any movie/audio/book/ASMR recommendations for a newly-out-to-self lesbian? - Trigger Warning (specify in title)3 posts in the past month
- Am I a late-blooming lesbian, or is this just trauma from DV?
- What are signs of a controlling lesbian?
- I use men as self harm “just to make sure” cw: SA
#53Trigger Warning (specify in title)Am I a late-blooming lesbian, or is this just trauma from DV? · What are signs of a controlling lesbian? · I use men as self harm “just to make sure” cw: SA
Product recommendations
- book5 posts in the past month
- Books recs?
- Late bloomer/revelation-havers book recs
- Coming Out Later - Podcast & Book Recs
#15bookBooks recs? · Late bloomer/revelation-havers book recs · Coming Out Later - Podcast & Book Recs - podcast5 posts in the past month
- Podcast recs
- Coming Out Later - Podcast & Book Recs
- 🏳️🌈 LGBTQ+ podcast recs?
#25podcastPodcast recs · Coming Out Later - Podcast & Book Recs · 🏳️🌈 LGBTQ+ podcast recs? - movie3 posts in the past month
- Holiday movie recs?
- hello fellow lesbians, does anybody have any recs for good (like actually good and realistic) lesbian movies/shows? I miss hanging out with my gay friends so I need that gay shit on my tv thank you 🥰
- Movie Recs
#33movieHoliday movie recs? · hello fellow lesbians, does anybody have any recs for good (like actually good and realistic) lesbian movies/shows? I miss hanging out with my gay friends so I need that gay shit on my tv thank you 🥰 · Movie Recs
Community Reviews
Frequently asked questions
- Who is r/latebloomerlesbians for?
- Best for LGBTQIA+ and Lesbians enthusiasts looking for a Reddit-based community with forum discussion, live chat.
- Is r/latebloomerlesbians free to join?
- This listing is not marked as paid-only. Access rules and any fees are decided by the community.
- How many members does r/latebloomerlesbians have?
- Roughly 141K members, based on figures reported by the community or its host. Member counts are approximate and change over time.
- What platform is r/latebloomerlesbians on?
- r/latebloomerlesbians runs on Reddit. Reddit communities (or "subreddits") are forum-based groups on the popular social news aggregation, web content rating, and discussion website Reddit. Reddit is commonly known as "the front page of the internet". Users submit content to the site such as links, text posts, and images, which are then voted up or down and discussed by other members. From investing Reddit communities, to professional ones, to ones just for laughs, you're likely to find a community for you on Reddit.
- What topics does r/latebloomerlesbians cover?
- On the Hive Index, r/latebloomerlesbians is organized under LGBTQIA+, Lesbians.
- How do I join r/latebloomerlesbians?
- You can join r/latebloomerlesbians by clicking this link, or pressing the "Go to community" button above.
- What are the LGBTQIA communities like?
- Communities for LGBTQIA+ people covering social connection, identity, mental health, and advocacy. Discord is a major hub with large and small servers for everything from general queer community to specific identities and interests, alongside subreddits and dedicated platforms for support and discussion.
Monthly Stats
- 135
- Views /mo (+45%)
- 96
- Visitors /mo (+30%)
- 34
- Referrals /mo (+48%)
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