About r/AskGayBrosOver30
AskGaybrosOver30 is first and foremost a community where unstraight men over 30 can ask advice from each other. We have requirements for posting and some topics like politics, trans issues, and religion are restricted. Please read the post linked in rule 1 for more information.
The community at a glance
r/AskGayBrosOver30 is a Subreddit for LGBTQIA+ with roughly 161K members. It has been around since 2017. It has both a forum and a live chat communication style. On the Hive Index it ranks #5 in the LGBTQIA communities list.
Roughly 42K members have joined in the past year. Popular discussion topics include Dating, Relationships, and Sex. Product recommendations often mention book, grindr, and gay youtubers.
Community Topics
Subreddit Analysis
via GummySearchMember growth over time
All time (yearly)
- 2018: 3K members
- 2019: 6K members
- 2020: 27K members
- 2021: 21K members
- 2023: 25K members
- 2024: 21K members
- 2025: 34K members
- 2026: 20K members
Past year (monthly)
- Jul: 5K members
- Aug: 3K members
- Sep: 3K members
- Oct: 2K members
- Nov: 4K members
- Dec: 4K members
- Jan: 5K members
- Feb: 3K members
- Mar: 3K members
- Apr: 3K members
- May: 3K members
- Jun: 2K members
Topics
- Dating38 posts in the past month#138Dating
- Relationships33 posts in the past month#233Relationships
- Sex27 posts in the past month#327Sex
- Looking For A21 posts in the past month#421Looking For A
- Struggling19 posts in the past month#519Struggling
Flair
- NSFW13 posts in the past month
- Feel disgusted after a hookup
- For those with sex toys and living alone, does the thought, that if you suddenly died, someone would find your sex toys, ever cross your mind?
- Should I go to a leather/nudist party by myself?
#113NSFWFeel disgusted after a hookup · For those with sex toys and living alone, does the thought, that if you suddenly died, someone would find your sex toys, ever cross your mind? · Should I go to a leather/nudist party by myself? - 50+ only1 post in the past month
- Feeling stuck and withdrawn at 55yo
#2150+ onlyFeeling stuck and withdrawn at 55yo
Product recommendations
- book6 posts in the past month
- Apart from The Velvet Rage, what gay themed book would you highly recommend?
- Gay history - recommended books?
- Can you recommend any good gay books?
#16bookApart from The Velvet Rage, what gay themed book would you highly recommend? · Gay history - recommended books? · Can you recommend any good gay books? - grindr4 posts in the past month
- The Best Grindr Meet-up So Far...
- The Best Grindr Meet-up So Far...
- Help me in my Grindr game. Which of combination of face pics do you recommend I use? Which ones should be avoided?
#24grindrThe Best Grindr Meet-up So Far... · The Best Grindr Meet-up So Far... · Help me in my Grindr game. Which of combination of face pics do you recommend I use? Which ones should be avoided? - gay youtubers4 posts in the past month
- Recommended Gay YouTubers to watch?
- Recommended Gay YouTubers to watch?
- Recommended Gay YouTubers to Watch?
#34gay youtubersRecommended Gay YouTubers to watch? · Recommended Gay YouTubers to watch? · Recommended Gay YouTubers to Watch? - lube3 posts in the past month
- What is the best lube besides Pepee lotion?
- Lube keeps leaking on flights. Do you recommend any single-use packages or brands of silicone or water based lube?
- Lube recs?
#43lubeWhat is the best lube besides Pepee lotion? · Lube keeps leaking on flights. Do you recommend any single-use packages or brands of silicone or water based lube? · Lube recs? - condom2 posts in the past month
- Best condom for guys in UK?
- What condoms would you recommend for someone with an above-average member?
#52condomBest condom for guys in UK? · What condoms would you recommend for someone with an above-average member?
Community Reviews
Frequently asked questions
- Who is r/AskGayBrosOver30 for?
- Best for LGBTQIA+ enthusiasts looking for a Reddit-based community with forum discussion, live chat.
- Is r/AskGayBrosOver30 free to join?
- This listing is not marked as paid-only. Access rules and any fees are decided by the community.
- How many members does r/AskGayBrosOver30 have?
- Roughly 161K members, based on figures reported by the community or its host. Member counts are approximate and change over time.
- What platform is r/AskGayBrosOver30 on?
- r/AskGayBrosOver30 runs on Reddit. Reddit communities (or "subreddits") are forum-based groups on the popular social news aggregation, web content rating, and discussion website Reddit. Reddit is commonly known as "the front page of the internet". Users submit content to the site such as links, text posts, and images, which are then voted up or down and discussed by other members. From investing Reddit communities, to professional ones, to ones just for laughs, you're likely to find a community for you on Reddit.
- What topics does r/AskGayBrosOver30 cover?
- On the Hive Index, r/AskGayBrosOver30 is organized under LGBTQIA+.
- How do I join r/AskGayBrosOver30?
- You can join r/AskGayBrosOver30 by clicking this link, or pressing the "Go to community" button above.
- What are the LGBTQIA communities like?
- Communities for LGBTQIA+ people covering social connection, identity, mental health, and advocacy. Discord is a major hub with large and small servers for everything from general queer community to specific identities and interests, alongside subreddits and dedicated platforms for support and discussion.
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