About r/ActualLesbiansOver25
We're lesbians over 25 who felt like the sub r/ActualLesbians was excellent, inclusive of all WLW, did a good job of enforcing no TERFs, & wanted to replicate that for the 25+ crowd. Simply put, WLW life in adulthood is much different, and as much as we're a part of r/ActualLesbians, we wanted a space where WLW 25+ can discuss more specific 25+ things separate from teens or the younger crowd. We do NOT tolerate TERFs, anti-trans rhetoric, or any form of bigotry.
The community at a glance
r/ActualLesbiansOver25 is a Subreddit for LGBTQIA+ and Lesbians with roughly 55K members. It has been around since 2019. It uses a forum format for communication. On the Hive Index it ranks #2 in the Lesbian communities list and #8 in the LGBTQIA communities list.
Roughly 19K members have joined in the past year. Popular discussion topics include Dating, Lesbian, and Advice. Product recommendations often mention apps and lesbian films.
Community Topics
Community Features
This community has a forum
Subreddit Analysis
via GummySearchMember growth over time
All time (yearly)
- 2021: 3K members
- 2023: 10K members
- 2024: 10K members
- 2025: 16K members
- 2026: 14K members
Past year (monthly)
- Oct: 1K members
- Nov: 2K members
- Dec: 1K members
- Jan: 1K members
- Feb: 1K members
- Mar: 1K members
- Apr: 2K members
- May: 2K members
- Jun: 2K members
- Jul: 2K members
- Aug: 2K members
- Sep: 1K members
Topics
- Dating80 posts in the past month#180Dating
- Lesbian38 posts in the past month#238Lesbian
- Advice28 posts in the past month#328Advice
- Relationships26 posts in the past month#426Relationships
- Struggling26 posts in the past month#526Struggling
Flair
- need advice31 posts in the past month
- Partner Not Coming to My Masters Graduation Ceremony
- Friends laughed in my face for being a virgin. It’s been making me feel undesirable and it’s killing me.
- Dating apps are genuinely starting to mess with my self-esteem
#131need advicePartner Not Coming to My Masters Graduation Ceremony · Friends laughed in my face for being a virgin. It’s been making me feel undesirable and it’s killing me. · Dating apps are genuinely starting to mess with my self-esteem - dating18 posts in the past month
- I don’t think people actually want to date…
- Any other fem 4 fem women struggling with dating?
- How do you even find a partner?
#218datingI don’t think people actually want to date… · Any other fem 4 fem women struggling with dating? · How do you even find a partner? - general conversation13 posts in the past month
- What's your favourite part to hold?
- Anyone else dislike hearing/seeing the phrase “oh, so you’re a lesbian now?”
- On dating apps but not dating?
#313general conversationWhat's your favourite part to hold? · Anyone else dislike hearing/seeing the phrase “oh, so you’re a lesbian now?” · On dating apps but not dating? - general life stuff12 posts in the past month
- God... I need something like this happens to me...the kind of love it want!
- I danced with a girl at the sapphic dance party!!
- Elder Lesbians, please impart your Sage wisdom
#412general life stuffGod... I need something like this happens to me...the kind of love it want! · I danced with a girl at the sapphic dance party!! · Elder Lesbians, please impart your Sage wisdom - Other5 posts in the past month
- 25+ wlw discord server
- Looking to connect with other fandom nerds
- Pushing 40 🫣🫣🫣🫣 Just felt cute tonight and wanted to share.
#55Other25+ wlw discord server · Looking to connect with other fandom nerds · Pushing 40 🫣🫣🫣🫣 Just felt cute tonight and wanted to share.
Product recommendations
- apps2 posts in the past month
- Best app to meet women?
- What apps do you recommend for a late bloomer?
#12appsBest app to meet women? · What apps do you recommend for a late bloomer? - lesbian films2 posts in the past month
- Recommended lesbian Christmas films that are not children's
- Lesbian film/series recs?
#22lesbian filmsRecommended lesbian Christmas films that are not children's · Lesbian film/series recs?
Frequently asked questions
- Who is r/ActualLesbiansOver25 for?
- Best for LGBTQIA+ and Lesbians enthusiasts looking for a Reddit-based community with forum discussion.
- Is r/ActualLesbiansOver25 free to join?
- This listing is not marked as paid-only. Access rules and any fees are decided by the community.
- How many members does r/ActualLesbiansOver25 have?
- Roughly 55K members, based on figures reported by the community or its host. Member counts are approximate and change over time.
- What platform is r/ActualLesbiansOver25 on?
- r/ActualLesbiansOver25 runs on Reddit. Reddit communities (or "subreddits") are forum-based groups on the popular social news aggregation, web content rating, and discussion website Reddit. Reddit is commonly known as "the front page of the internet". Users submit content to the site such as links, text posts, and images, which are then voted up or down and discussed by other members. From investing Reddit communities, to professional ones, to ones just for laughs, you're likely to find a community for you on Reddit.
- What topics does r/ActualLesbiansOver25 cover?
- On the Hive Index, r/ActualLesbiansOver25 is organized under LGBTQIA+, Lesbians.
- How do I join r/ActualLesbiansOver25?
- You can join r/ActualLesbiansOver25 by clicking this link, or pressing the "Go to community" button above.
- What are the LGBTQIA communities like?
- Communities for LGBTQIA+ people covering social connection, identity, mental health, and advocacy. Discord is a major hub with large and small servers for everything from general queer community to specific identities and interests, alongside subreddits and dedicated platforms for support and discussion.
Monthly Stats
- 50
- Views /mo (+117%)
- 37
- Visitors /mo (+131%)
- 8
- Referrals /mo (+60%)
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