About r/actuallesbians
/r/actuallesbians — a place for cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, anyone in the LGBT+ community, or anyone else interested! We're not a militant or exclusive group, feel free to join up!
The community at a glance
r/actuallesbians is a Subreddit for Lesbians with roughly 678K members. It uses a forum format for communication. It is the 1st largest community in the Lesbian topic page.
Roughly 92K members have joined in the past year. Popular discussion topics include Lesbian, Looking For A, and Struggling. Product recommendations often mention book recs.
Community Topics
Community Features
This community has a forum
Subreddit Analysis
via GummySearchMember growth over time
All time (yearly)
- 2013: 12K members
- 2014: 12K members
- 2015: 9K members
- 2016: 17K members
- 2017: 22K members
- 2020: 216K members
- 2021: 75K members
- 2023: 121K members
- 2024: 54K members
- 2025: 44K members
- 2026: 82K members
Past year (monthly)
- Dec: 6K members
- Jan: 7K members
- Feb: 7K members
- Mar: 8K members
- Apr: 8K members
- May: 9K members
- Jun: 8K members
- Jul: 8K members
- Aug: 8K members
- Sep: 7K members
- Oct: 8K members
- Nov: 2K members
Topics
- Lesbian89 posts in the past month#189Lesbian
- Looking For A43 posts in the past month#243Looking For A
- Struggling39 posts in the past month#339Struggling
- Relationship36 posts in the past month#436Relationship
- Dating26 posts in the past month#526Dating
Flair
- Question11 posts in the past month
- What unusual things make you feel deeply loved?
- Im not sure if partner is actually attracted to me?
- Por que homens insistem em dar em cima de lésbicas?
#111QuestionWhat unusual things make you feel deeply loved? · Im not sure if partner is actually attracted to me? · Por que homens insistem em dar em cima de lésbicas? - Image4 posts in the past month
- diva down
- I really like lesbian art with tension
- My girlfriend is so hot it’s painful… How am I supposed to think straight when I know she’s MINE?!
#24Imagediva down · I really like lesbian art with tension · My girlfriend is so hot it’s painful… How am I supposed to think straight when I know she’s MINE?! - Venting4 posts in the past month
- Am I wrong for feeling grossed out by what my coworker said or am I overreacting
- Does it ever stop feeling lonely?
- This is ridiculous!
#34VentingAm I wrong for feeling grossed out by what my coworker said or am I overreacting · Does it ever stop feeling lonely? · This is ridiculous! - Support4 posts in the past month
- I have no game and only know how to act platonic not because idk if a person wants me to flirt but because I have no idea how to switch from friendly to flirty. I only know how to flirt if someone makes the first move? Help a loser lesbian out 😩
- I'm panicking. Guy friend’s mom just saw us admiring women
- Hypocrisy: "Lesbian" ex is dating a man after being insecure about not having a penis.
#44SupportI have no game and only know how to act platonic not because idk if a person wants me to flirt but because I have no idea how to switch from friendly to flirty. I only know how to flirt if someone makes the first move? Help a loser lesbian out 😩 · I'm panicking. Guy friend’s mom just saw us admiring women · Hypocrisy: "Lesbian" ex is dating a man after being insecure about not having a penis. - Text2 posts in the past month
- Finally worked out im a guy so im leaving
- I miss my ex
#52TextFinally worked out im a guy so im leaving · I miss my ex
Product recommendations
- book recs6 posts in the past month
- Can anyone recommend sapphic romance books?
- Book recs?
- Book recs
#16book recsCan anyone recommend sapphic romance books? · Book recs? · Book recs
Community Reviews
Frequently asked questions
- Who is r/actuallesbians for?
- Best for Lesbians enthusiasts looking for a Reddit-based community with forum discussion.
- Is r/actuallesbians free to join?
- This listing is not marked as paid-only. Access rules and any fees are decided by the community.
- How many members does r/actuallesbians have?
- Roughly 678K members, based on figures reported by the community or its host. Member counts are approximate and change over time.
- What platform is r/actuallesbians on?
- r/actuallesbians runs on Reddit. Reddit communities (or "subreddits") are forum-based groups on the popular social news aggregation, web content rating, and discussion website Reddit. Reddit is commonly known as "the front page of the internet". Users submit content to the site such as links, text posts, and images, which are then voted up or down and discussed by other members. From investing Reddit communities, to professional ones, to ones just for laughs, you're likely to find a community for you on Reddit.
- What topics does r/actuallesbians cover?
- On the Hive Index, r/actuallesbians is organized under Lesbians.
- How do I join r/actuallesbians?
- You can join r/actuallesbians by clicking this link, or pressing the "Go to community" button above.
- What are the Lesbian communities like?
- Communities for lesbian and sapphic women covering social connection, dating, identity, and interests. Discord servers and subreddits provide spaces for general chat, dating advice, cultural discussion, and support, with communities ranging from casual social to interest-specific like gaming, books, and fitness.
Monthly Stats
- 16
- Views /mo (-38%)
- 15
- Visitors /mo (-25%)
- 1
- Referrals /mo (-86%)
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