About r/actuallesbians
/r/actuallesbians — a place for cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, anyone in the LGBT+ community, or anyone else interested! We're not a militant or exclusive group, feel free to join up!
The community at a glance
r/actuallesbians is a Subreddit for Lesbians with roughly 666K members. It uses a forum format for communication. On the Hive Index it ranks #4 in the Lesbian communities list.
Roughly 84K members have joined in the past year. Popular discussion topics include Lesbian, Looking For A, and Struggling. Product recommendations often mention book recs.
Community Topics
Community Features
This community has a forum
Subreddit Analysis
via GummySearchMember growth over time
All time (yearly)
- 2013: 12K members
- 2014: 12K members
- 2015: 9K members
- 2016: 17K members
- 2017: 22K members
- 2020: 216K members
- 2021: 75K members
- 2023: 121K members
- 2024: 54K members
- 2025: 44K members
- 2026: 70K members
Past year (monthly)
- Oct: 2K members
- Nov: 5K members
- Dec: 6K members
- Jan: 7K members
- Feb: 7K members
- Mar: 8K members
- Apr: 8K members
- May: 9K members
- Jun: 8K members
- Jul: 8K members
- Aug: 8K members
- Sep: 5K members
Topics
- Lesbian89 posts in the past month#189Lesbian
- Looking For A43 posts in the past month#243Looking For A
- Struggling39 posts in the past month#339Struggling
- Relationship36 posts in the past month#436Relationship
- Dating26 posts in the past month#526Dating
Flair
- Question13 posts in the past month
- Advice for a monogamous girl with a polyamory crush
- So… what's something a woman did in bed that impressed you or surprised you?
- how to not be nervous
#113QuestionAdvice for a monogamous girl with a polyamory crush · So… what's something a woman did in bed that impressed you or surprised you? · how to not be nervous - Link11 posts in the past month
- God forbid a Chinese Lesbian give some pointers on… huhh… wow, you know, that’s… that’s pretty good. That sure is something. Goddamn.
- My girlfriend wants us to take some time apart and then “get to know each other again.” I understand why, but I’m terrified it won’t change anything? (21F - 21F)
- Help, I need advice on dating/talking stage
#211LinkGod forbid a Chinese Lesbian give some pointers on… huhh… wow, you know, that’s… that’s pretty good. That sure is something. Goddamn. · My girlfriend wants us to take some time apart and then “get to know each other again.” I understand why, but I’m terrified it won’t change anything? (21F - 21F) · Help, I need advice on dating/talking stage - Venting10 posts in the past month
- My friend and I made out and now she’s not talking to me 😭
- Thirst trap or just comfortable?
- I don't like hair in my mouth 😔
#310VentingMy friend and I made out and now she’s not talking to me 😭 · Thirst trap or just comfortable? · I don't like hair in my mouth 😔 - Image8 posts in the past month
- i cant breathe
- Repairwoman
- Summer of gay!
#48Imagei cant breathe · Repairwoman · Summer of gay! - Support8 posts in the past month
- Ashamed of Myself
- being adult and gay is hard
- How to process trauma around sexuality and vulnerability
#58SupportAshamed of Myself · being adult and gay is hard · How to process trauma around sexuality and vulnerability
Product recommendations
- book recs6 posts in the past month
- Can anyone recommend sapphic romance books?
- Book recs?
- Book recs
#16book recsCan anyone recommend sapphic romance books? · Book recs? · Book recs
Community Reviews
Frequently asked questions
- Who is r/actuallesbians for?
- Best for Lesbians enthusiasts looking for a Reddit-based community with forum discussion.
- Is r/actuallesbians free to join?
- This listing is not marked as paid-only. Access rules and any fees are decided by the community.
- How many members does r/actuallesbians have?
- Roughly 666K members, based on figures reported by the community or its host. Member counts are approximate and change over time.
- What platform is r/actuallesbians on?
- r/actuallesbians runs on Reddit. Reddit communities (or "subreddits") are forum-based groups on the popular social news aggregation, web content rating, and discussion website Reddit. Reddit is commonly known as "the front page of the internet". Users submit content to the site such as links, text posts, and images, which are then voted up or down and discussed by other members. From investing Reddit communities, to professional ones, to ones just for laughs, you're likely to find a community for you on Reddit.
- What topics does r/actuallesbians cover?
- On the Hive Index, r/actuallesbians is organized under Lesbians.
- How do I join r/actuallesbians?
- You can join r/actuallesbians by clicking this link, or pressing the "Go to community" button above.
- What are the Lesbian communities like?
- Communities for lesbian and sapphic women covering social connection, dating, identity, and interests. Discord servers and subreddits provide spaces for general chat, dating advice, cultural discussion, and support, with communities ranging from casual social to interest-specific like gaming, books, and fitness.
Monthly Stats
- 25
- Views /mo (0%)
- 18
- Visitors /mo (+20%)
- 7
- Referrals /mo (+75%)
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