Community Overview
About r/dating
A subreddit to discuss and explore the dating process and learn from the experiences of others
The community at a glance
r/dating is a Subreddit for Relationships and Dating with roughly 6.3M members. It uses a forum format for communication. On the Hive Index it ranks #3 in the Relationships communities list. It is the 2nd largest community in the Dating topic page.
Roughly 91K members have joined in the past year. Popular discussion topics include Dating, Tired, and Struggling. Common discussion themes are Advice Requests and Pain & Anger. Product recommendations often mention dating apps.
On Reddit
6.3M Members
Community Topics
Community Features
This community has a forum
Subreddit Analysis
via GummySearchYearly: +91K members
Growth: +1.5% / year
Member growth over time
All time (yearly)
- 2013: 2K members
- 2014: 3K members
- 2015: 5K members
- 2016: 6K members
- 2017: 10K members
- 2018: 24K members
- 2019: 125K members
- 2020: 318K members
- 2023: 2.7M members
- 2024: 2.6M members
- 2025: 419K members
- 2026: 78K members
2013
+2K new
2014
+3K new
2015
+5K new
2016
+6K new
2017
+10K new
2018
+24K new
2019
+125K new
2020
+318K new
2023
+2.7M new
2024
+2.6M new
2025
+419K new
2026
+78K new
Past year (monthly)
- Oct: 0 members
- Nov: 11K members
- Dec: 11K members
- Jan: 11K members
- Feb: 9K members
- Mar: 9K members
- Apr: 9K members
- May: 9K members
- Jun: 9K members
- Jul: 10K members
- Aug: 10K members
- Sep: 2K members
October 2025
+0 new
November 2025
+11K new
December 2025
+11K new
January 2026
+11K new
February 2026
+9K new
March 2026
+9K new
April 2026
+9K new
May 2026
+9K new
June 2026
+9K new
July 2026
+10K new
August 2026
+10K new
September 2026
+2K new
Themes
- Advice Requests4 posts in the past month
- Just picking brains, on a date or when first dating someone, what are some questions that you would naturally ask and if they got defensive about, starting studdering over, or gave a vague answer to, it would instantly sound an alarm bell in your head?
- How do I approach dating in a healthy way?
- Being 'good looking' does not matter when your personality falls short. How do I honestly assess myself?
#14Advice RequestsJust picking brains, on a date or when first dating someone, what are some questions that you would naturally ask and if they got defensive about, starting studdering over, or gave a vague answer to, it would instantly sound an alarm bell in your head? · How do I approach dating in a healthy way? · Being 'good looking' does not matter when your personality falls short. How do I honestly assess myself? - Pain & Anger4 posts in the past month
- Do any other women here feel like dating apps is a game of trying not to pick the thief?
- The way women approach dating is very traumatizing for a man
- Yesterday was my 35th birthday yet I've never had a girlfriend before; here's my story.
#24Pain & AngerDo any other women here feel like dating apps is a game of trying not to pick the thief? · The way women approach dating is very traumatizing for a man · Yesterday was my 35th birthday yet I've never had a girlfriend before; here's my story.
Topics
- Dating77 posts in the past month
- Inexperienced in dating and in my 30s. Is there anything I am doing wrong?
- How many scammers, or Ai bots have you come across on dating apps?
- The way women approach dating is very traumatizing for a man
#177DatingInexperienced in dating and in my 30s. Is there anything I am doing wrong? · How many scammers, or Ai bots have you come across on dating apps? · The way women approach dating is very traumatizing for a man - Tired27 posts in the past month#227Tired
- Struggling22 posts in the past month#322Struggling
- Hate20 posts in the past month#420Hate
- Relationship15 posts in the past month
- Men: Have you ever ended a relationship because you wanted to be with someone else?
- Has anyone started a relationship in their 20s before having sex with that person?
#515RelationshipMen: Have you ever ended a relationship because you wanted to be with someone else? · Has anyone started a relationship in their 20s before having sex with that person?
Flair
- Question ❓8 posts in the past month
- Just picking brains, on a date or when first dating someone, what are some questions that you would naturally ask and if they got defensive about, starting studdering over, or gave a vague answer to, it would instantly sound an alarm bell in your head?
- Men: Have you ever ended a relationship because you wanted to be with someone else?
- How many scammers, or Ai bots have you come across on dating apps?
#18Question ❓Just picking brains, on a date or when first dating someone, what are some questions that you would naturally ask and if they got defensive about, starting studdering over, or gave a vague answer to, it would instantly sound an alarm bell in your head? · Men: Have you ever ended a relationship because you wanted to be with someone else? · How many scammers, or Ai bots have you come across on dating apps? - I Need Advice 😩7 posts in the past month
- Inexperienced in dating and in my 30s. Is there anything I am doing wrong?
- Being 'good looking' does not matter when your personality falls short. How do I honestly assess myself?
- Workplace romance with a girl who dated my friend
#27I Need Advice 😩Inexperienced in dating and in my 30s. Is there anything I am doing wrong? · Being 'good looking' does not matter when your personality falls short. How do I honestly assess myself? · Workplace romance with a girl who dated my friend - Just Venting 😮💨4 posts in the past month
- Dating in your 30s
- Just went on the lamest date I've had all year, but the worst part wasn't the date itself.
- Yesterday was my 35th birthday yet I've never had a girlfriend before; here's my story.
#34Just Venting 😮💨Dating in your 30s · Just went on the lamest date I've had all year, but the worst part wasn't the date itself. · Yesterday was my 35th birthday yet I've never had a girlfriend before; here's my story.
Product recommendations
- dating apps21 posts in the past month
- What’s the best dating app for meeting nerds in their 30s?
- What’s the best dating app for meeting nerds in their 30s?
- I (19f) wanna try a dating app for the first time, which one do you recommend and how was your experience with dating apps?
#121dating appsWhat’s the best dating app for meeting nerds in their 30s? · What’s the best dating app for meeting nerds in their 30s? · I (19f) wanna try a dating app for the first time, which one do you recommend and how was your experience with dating apps?
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Community Reviews
Frequently asked questions
- Who is r/dating for?
- Best for Relationships and Dating enthusiasts looking for a Reddit-based community with forum discussion.
- Is r/dating free to join?
- This listing is not marked as paid-only. Access rules and any fees are decided by the community.
- How many members does r/dating have?
- Roughly 6.3M members, based on figures reported by the community or its host. Member counts are approximate and change over time.
- What platform is r/dating on?
- r/dating runs on Reddit. Reddit communities (or "subreddits") are forum-based groups on the popular social news aggregation, web content rating, and discussion website Reddit. Reddit is commonly known as "the front page of the internet". Users submit content to the site such as links, text posts, and images, which are then voted up or down and discussed by other members. From investing Reddit communities, to professional ones, to ones just for laughs, you're likely to find a community for you on Reddit.
- What topics does r/dating cover?
- On the Hive Index, r/dating is organized under Relationships, Dating.
- How do I join r/dating?
- You can join r/dating by clicking this link, or pressing the "Go to community" button above.
- What are the Relationships communities like?
- Communities for people navigating dating, partnerships, marriage, and the dynamics of personal relationships. Reddit has the largest and most active communities here, spanning advice for long-distance couples, relationship challenges, and general discussion about dating and love, with some Discord servers for more real-time conversation.
Monthly Stats
- 41
- Views /mo (-28%)
- 29
- Visitors /mo (-28%)
- 10
- Referrals /mo (-41%)
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