About r/dating
A subreddit to discuss and explore the dating process and learn from the experiences of others
The community at a glance
r/dating is a Subreddit for Relationships and Dating with roughly 6.3M members. It uses a forum format for communication. On the Hive Index it ranks #3 in the Relationships communities list. It is the 3rd largest community in the Dating topic page.
Roughly 70K members have joined in the past year. Popular discussion topics include Dating, Tired, and Struggling. Common discussion themes are Pain & Anger and Advice Requests. Product recommendations often mention dating apps.
Community Topics
Community Features
This community has a forum
Subreddit Analysis
via GummySearchMember growth over time
All time (yearly)
- 2013: 2K members
- 2014: 3K members
- 2015: 5K members
- 2016: 6K members
- 2017: 10K members
- 2018: 24K members
- 2019: 125K members
- 2020: 318K members
- 2023: 2.7M members
- 2024: 2.6M members
- 2025: 419K members
- 2026: 66K members
Past year (monthly)
- Aug: 0 members
- Sep: 0 members
- Oct: 0 members
- Nov: 11K members
- Dec: 11K members
- Jan: 11K members
- Feb: 9K members
- Mar: 9K members
- Apr: 9K members
- May: 9K members
- Jun: 9K members
- Jul: 9K members
Themes
- Pain & Anger3 posts in the past month
- So this is dating life of the average man?
- Is there anything wrong with "not being interesting"?
- Great date but bad texter
#13Pain & AngerSo this is dating life of the average man? · Is there anything wrong with "not being interesting"? · Great date but bad texter - Advice Requests3 posts in the past month
- Girls who refuse to give out your number but offer your IG instead: What’s the logic here?
- Has anybody who’s actually struggled with dating found their person?
- Help; general questions / confusion about dating
#23Advice RequestsGirls who refuse to give out your number but offer your IG instead: What’s the logic here? · Has anybody who’s actually struggled with dating found their person? · Help; general questions / confusion about dating
Topics
- Dating62 posts in the past month
- I really feel like having “good qualities” makes no difference in the world of dating. They always seem to choose someone else
- Help; general questions / confusion about dating
- Has anybody who’s actually struggled with dating found their person?
#162DatingI really feel like having “good qualities” makes no difference in the world of dating. They always seem to choose someone else · Help; general questions / confusion about dating · Has anybody who’s actually struggled with dating found their person? - Tired28 posts in the past month#228Tired
- Struggling22 posts in the past month#322Struggling
- Hate21 posts in the past month#421Hate
- Relationship9 posts in the past month#59Relationship
Flair
- Question ❓3 posts in the past month
- Has anybody who’s actually struggled with dating found their person?
- Girls who refuse to give out your number but offer your IG instead: What’s the logic here?
- Is there anything wrong with "not being interesting"?
#13Question ❓Has anybody who’s actually struggled with dating found their person? · Girls who refuse to give out your number but offer your IG instead: What’s the logic here? · Is there anything wrong with "not being interesting"? - Just Venting 😮💨2 posts in the past month
- I really feel like having “good qualities” makes no difference in the world of dating. They always seem to choose someone else
- So this is dating life of the average man?
#22Just Venting 😮💨I really feel like having “good qualities” makes no difference in the world of dating. They always seem to choose someone else · So this is dating life of the average man? - Support Needed 🫂2 posts in the past month
- Help; general questions / confusion about dating
- Great date but bad texter
#32Support Needed 🫂Help; general questions / confusion about dating · Great date but bad texter
Product recommendations
- dating apps21 posts in the past month
- What’s the best dating app for meeting nerds in their 30s?
- What’s the best dating app for meeting nerds in their 30s?
- I (19f) wanna try a dating app for the first time, which one do you recommend and how was your experience with dating apps?
#121dating appsWhat’s the best dating app for meeting nerds in their 30s? · What’s the best dating app for meeting nerds in their 30s? · I (19f) wanna try a dating app for the first time, which one do you recommend and how was your experience with dating apps?
Community Reviews
Frequently asked questions
- Who is r/dating for?
- Best for Relationships and Dating enthusiasts looking for a Reddit-based community with forum discussion.
- Is r/dating free to join?
- This listing is not marked as paid-only. Access rules and any fees are decided by the community.
- How many members does r/dating have?
- Roughly 6.3M members, based on figures reported by the community or its host. Member counts are approximate and change over time.
- What platform is r/dating on?
- r/dating runs on Reddit. Reddit communities (or "subreddits") are forum-based groups on the popular social news aggregation, web content rating, and discussion website Reddit. Reddit is commonly known as "the front page of the internet". Users submit content to the site such as links, text posts, and images, which are then voted up or down and discussed by other members. From investing Reddit communities, to professional ones, to ones just for laughs, you're likely to find a community for you on Reddit.
- What topics does r/dating cover?
- On the Hive Index, r/dating is organized under Relationships, Dating.
- How do I join r/dating?
- You can join r/dating by clicking this link, or pressing the "Go to community" button above.
- What are the Relationships communities like?
- Communities for people navigating dating, partnerships, marriage, and the dynamics of personal relationships. Reddit has the largest and most active communities here, spanning advice for long-distance couples, relationship challenges, and general discussion about dating and love, with some Discord servers for more real-time conversation.
Monthly Stats
- 52
- Views /mo (+8%)
- 36
- Visitors /mo (-3%)
- 17
- Referrals /mo (+21%)
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