r/AskWomenOver30

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About r/AskWomenOver30

AskWomenOver30 is an open, affirming place to ask women over 30 for their perspective.

The community at a glance

r/AskWomenOver30 is a Subreddit for Relationships with roughly 427K members. It has been around since 2013. It uses a forum format for communication. It is the 6th largest community in the Relationships topic page.

Roughly 86K members have joined in the past year. Popular discussion topics include Friendship, Relationship, and Relationships. Common discussion themes are Advice Requests and Pain & Anger. Product recommendations often mention book, clothing, and podcast.

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Established 2013
427K Members

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Yearly: +86K members
Growth: +25.1% / year

Member growth over time

All time (yearly)

  • 2014: 2K members
  • 2015: 3K members
  • 2016: 4K members
  • 2017: 4K members
  • 2018: 13K members
  • 2019: 27K members
  • 2020: 31K members
  • 2023: 117K members
  • 2024: 101K members
  • 2025: 77K members
  • 2026: 46K members

Past year (monthly)

  • Jul: 7K members
  • Aug: 6K members
  • Sep: 5K members
  • Oct: 5K members
  • Nov: 7K members
  • Dec: 7K members
  • Jan: 9K members
  • Feb: 8K members
  • Mar: 9K members
  • Apr: 7K members
  • May: 7K members
  • Jun: 6K members

Themes

  • Advice Requests
    26 posts in the past month
    1. My boyfriend appears to be significantly wealthier than I realized. When should couples disclose their full finances?
    2. I (33F) recently married (37M) and AI is ruining my marriage. Help.
    3. How did you accept that no one was coming to save you?
    #1
    Advice Requests
    My boyfriend appears to be significantly wealthier than I realized. When should couples disclose their full finances? · I (33F) recently married (37M) and AI is ruining my marriage. Help. · How did you accept that no one was coming to save you?
    26
  • Pain & Anger
    4 posts in the past month
    1. Why is dating so demoralizing?
    2. What was your "I've had enough moment" with your sibling?
    3. Does anyone still struggle with things like self harm in your 30s?
    #2
    Pain & Anger
    Why is dating so demoralizing? · What was your "I've had enough moment" with your sibling? · Does anyone still struggle with things like self harm in your 30s?
    4

Topics

  • Friendship
    39 posts in the past month
    1. Have friendships become less about repair/reciprocity and more about 'protecting your peace'?
    2. Friend’s reaction to me volunteering at a shelter has me questioning the whole friendship
    3. I keep becoming resentful in friendships when I feel I give more than I receive. How do I change this pattern?
    #1
    Friendship
    Have friendships become less about repair/reciprocity and more about 'protecting your peace'? · Friend’s reaction to me volunteering at a shelter has me questioning the whole friendship · I keep becoming resentful in friendships when I feel I give more than I receive. How do I change this pattern?
    39
  • Relationship
    36 posts in the past month
    1. Has anyone ever chosen a long term Friends w/Benefits over a relationship/partnership?
    2. No romance/ passion in 10+ year relationship? How much is normal?
    3. What did you do to get your identity/confidence back after a long relationship?
    #2
    Relationship
    Has anyone ever chosen a long term Friends w/Benefits over a relationship/partnership? · No romance/ passion in 10+ year relationship? How much is normal? · What did you do to get your identity/confidence back after a long relationship?
    36
  • Relationships
    26 posts in the past month
    1. Having the worst limerance of my life and I need support
    2. Are friendships ultimately just transactional?
    3. Anyone in LTR’s stop having sex? How did you end the dry spell.
    #3
    Relationships
    Having the worst limerance of my life and I need support · Are friendships ultimately just transactional? · Anyone in LTR’s stop having sex? How did you end the dry spell.
    26
  • Dating
    21 posts in the past month
    1. Why is dating so demoralizing?
    2. Anyone else taking dating apps way more seriously in ur 30s after never finding ur person?
    #4
    Dating
    Why is dating so demoralizing? · Anyone else taking dating apps way more seriously in ur 30s after never finding ur person?
    21
  • Career
    20 posts in the past month
    1. 35F dreaming of a science career with zero math/science background. Anyone made a leap like this?
    #5
    Career
    35F dreaming of a science career with zero math/science background. Anyone made a leap like this?
    20

Flair

  • Romance/Relationships
    58 posts in the past month
    1. My boyfriend appears to be significantly wealthier than I realized. When should couples disclose their full finances?
    2. I (33F) recently married (37M) and AI is ruining my marriage. Help.
    3. Why is dating so demoralizing?
    #1
    Romance/Relationships
    My boyfriend appears to be significantly wealthier than I realized. When should couples disclose their full finances? · I (33F) recently married (37M) and AI is ruining my marriage. Help. · Why is dating so demoralizing?
    58
  • Life/Self/Spirituality
    46 posts in the past month
    1. Anyone else grieving the life you thought you’d have by now?
    2. Is anyone else addicted to Tik Tok/Reddit/scrolling? Did any of you quit the addiction and how did your life improve?
    3. Anyone else just feels indifferent about life? Like your life energy is changing
    #2
    Life/Self/Spirituality
    Anyone else grieving the life you thought you’d have by now? · Is anyone else addicted to Tik Tok/Reddit/scrolling? Did any of you quit the addiction and how did your life improve? · Anyone else just feels indifferent about life? Like your life energy is changing
    46
  • Friendships
    35 posts in the past month
    1. Twenty year friendship over after our first, only, and final fight. Her husband screamed at me out of nowhere.
    2. Have friendships become less about repair/reciprocity and more about 'protecting your peace'?
    3. bachelorette trip costs ended up being way more than I expected due to payment split I was never told about. How do I navigate this?
    #3
    Friendships
    Twenty year friendship over after our first, only, and final fight. Her husband screamed at me out of nowhere. · Have friendships become less about repair/reciprocity and more about 'protecting your peace'? · bachelorette trip costs ended up being way more than I expected due to payment split I was never told about. How do I navigate this?
    35
  • Misc Discussion
    22 posts in the past month
    1. Anyone at that point in their life where they wake up to zero text messages or spend an entire day without receiving any text messages?
    2. Women who don't exercise: how do you physically feel?
    3. What do you do to 'treat yourself' that isn't alcohol, drug, food, or shopping related?
    #4
    Misc Discussion
    Anyone at that point in their life where they wake up to zero text messages or spend an entire day without receiving any text messages? · Women who don't exercise: how do you physically feel? · What do you do to 'treat yourself' that isn't alcohol, drug, food, or shopping related?
    22
  • Career
    11 posts in the past month
    1. Does anyone else feel like everyone but you got some kind of corporate behavior/jargon guide before entering the workforce?
    2. Am I overreacting to this AI question?
    3. How do you deal with having to spoon feed coworkers who make more than you?
    #5
    Career
    Does anyone else feel like everyone but you got some kind of corporate behavior/jargon guide before entering the workforce? · Am I overreacting to this AI question? · How do you deal with having to spoon feed coworkers who make more than you?
    11

Product recommendations

  • book
    9 posts in the past month
    1. Recommend a book for a beginner to romance/sexy novels?
    2. What book are you reading at the moment that you recommend?
    3. Book recs for people learning to downsize, specifically retirement age.
    #1
    book
    Recommend a book for a beginner to romance/sexy novels? · What book are you reading at the moment that you recommend? · Book recs for people learning to downsize, specifically retirement age.
    9
  • clothing
    3 posts in the past month
    1. Affordable casual clothing recs for warm weather — hit me!
    2. Clothing brand recs
    3. Clothing recs
    #2
    clothing
    Affordable casual clothing recs for warm weather — hit me! · Clothing brand recs · Clothing recs
    3
  • podcast
    3 posts in the past month
    1. Stuck in my house with the flu for over a week, and slowly losing my mind - please recommend me a podcast!
    2. Books or podcast recs for when you feel stuck in life?
    3. Podcast recs?
    #3
    podcast
    Stuck in my house with the flu for over a week, and slowly losing my mind - please recommend me a podcast! · Books or podcast recs for when you feel stuck in life? · Podcast recs?
    3
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Frequently asked questions

Who is r/AskWomenOver30 for?
Best for Relationships enthusiasts looking for a Reddit-based community with forum discussion.
Is r/AskWomenOver30 free to join?
This listing is not marked as paid-only. Access rules and any fees are decided by the community.
How many members does r/AskWomenOver30 have?
Roughly 427K members, based on figures reported by the community or its host. Member counts are approximate and change over time.
What platform is r/AskWomenOver30 on?
r/AskWomenOver30 runs on Reddit. Reddit communities (or "subreddits") are forum-based groups on the popular social news aggregation, web content rating, and discussion website Reddit. Reddit is commonly known as "the front page of the internet". Users submit content to the site such as links, text posts, and images, which are then voted up or down and discussed by other members. From investing Reddit communities, to professional ones, to ones just for laughs, you're likely to find a community for you on Reddit.
What topics does r/AskWomenOver30 cover?
On the Hive Index, r/AskWomenOver30 is organized under Relationships.
How do I join r/AskWomenOver30?
You can join r/AskWomenOver30 by clicking this link, or pressing the "Go to community" button above.
What are the Relationships communities like?
Communities for people navigating dating, partnerships, marriage, and the dynamics of personal relationships. Reddit has the largest and most active communities here, spanning advice for long-distance couples, relationship challenges, and general discussion about dating and love, with some Discord servers for more real-time conversation.
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